10 Must-Read Dating Tips for Guys!

Let me just say that I just love Russians. I think they’re smart and funny and  hot. My best friend is Russian. My first boyfriend was Russian. I have no idea what this whole Russian Bride thing is all about, but I read this article called “First Letter to Your Russian Bride,” because I thought it sounded humorous.  Actually, I thought this article was full of good ideas and that it could easily be adapted to:

a. Good advice (for guys mostly, but even for gals) for a first date. Or even…

b. Good advice when contacting someone you may have met on a dating website or Facebook. These tips are sound, sensible, and courteous. Here we go with our, ahem, “instructions”…

1. Be friendly and polite. It is very important to show your date respect. And I love this part: “You’d better [not] use nicknames and phrases like: “Hey baby” or “My hot girl” in your very first introductory letter, it’s better to make a pleasant compliment [to] her instead. Don’t worry if you really like using these words you can do it a bit later. Just wait till lady opens up for you.” LOL!

2. Keep your tone upbeat. Your conversation/letter should reflect your great mood and optimism. “If you tell your future Russian bride about your difficulties, problems and complaints in your very first letter, it will definitely scare her away.”  Show her your happy and cheerful side. Negativity is a major turnoff.  Being positive is like a magnet that will draw her closer.

3. Share interesting information about yourself that you think others would find appealing. (When contacting someone online, you can check her profile to find out about her hobbies and interests. The more you have in common the better!)

4. Focus on your positive traits: Don’t share your disadvantages on your first date (or in your introduction letter). You should focus only on the good things about yourself, but it’s also important to know where to stop… boasting will not bring positive results either! Here are some phrases that will help you to describe you in a best way (some of them are pretty corny, but I deleted the worst ones.  Some you can get away with in a letter but never face-to-face! Use at your own discretion!):
– My best friend describes me as…
– I’m happiest when I’m…
– Here’s what you’d find if you looked around my place…
– A great day in my life would include…
– The last great book I read was…
– The last great movie I saw was…
– My favorite season is…
– The music that moves me most is…
– This morning in my car I was listening to…
– Last Saturday night I…
– The last vacation I went on was…
– The most adventurous thing I’ve ever done was…
– I’m happiest when I’m with someone who…

5. Include the basics: Age, education and career. According to statistics, 80% of women find these three things to be important information to find out on a first date.

6. Popular topics: Forget those awkward moments of silence. You can always fall back on things such as pets, favorite books, hobbies, children or anything else that is likely to reveal a shared interest.


7. Don’t be controversial:
Steer clear of debatable topics, at least on a first date. Debates and arguments can be enjoyable, but are best saved for someone you already feel comfortable with.

8. Too much information: Try not to overload your date with too much at once. Revealing a little bit at a time will pique your date’s interest. “Remember that there must be a little secret not only in a lady but in a man as well. You’ll reach great results if you make your lady wait for the next chapter of your story impatiently.”

9. Show your interest in her: Don’t blab endlessly about yourself, as fascinating as you find that topic to be. Ask your date questions about herself too. “Remember that it’s so important to have a dialog instead of monologue.” Not only will you encourage her to open up, but she’ll appreciate your attempts to get to know her.

10. Be smart: Use careful judgment when deciding how much information to share with a stranger. Always be cautious when it comes to revealing personal information.  You should wait until you trust her before revealing your deep, dark family secrets…