“I became a Stepford wife and saved my marriage,” claims Karen. Does this mean that she dyed her hair blonde and bakes scones all day? Not quite… Relinquishing control in marriage and restoring marital harmony is the name of the game in a new Channel Five documentary (in the UK).Â The idea of the surrendered wife comes from a book by American Laura Doyle and has createdÂ a mini-movement.
Â “The idea is that men can’t change – so women are the ones who need a radical re-think in order to preserve romance in marriages.” Ha! It’s a drastic plan, giving control of just about everythingto your husband!Â (And we’re rewarding him for what, exactly? Being unchangeable?)Â Says Karen’s husband Ali, “But we were so unhappy before, and the rows were terrible. Now she smiles sweetly and asks me what I think about everything. We don’t row, we just cuddle like teenagers – and it is wonderful.”Â Check out their website at www.surrenderedwife.com.
Ok, my two cents. I don’t think any woman can go on this way indefinitely, and stay sane. I postulate that she only needs to do it long enough to become accustomed to the feeling of surrender, so that she doesn’t mind giving her husband control when he (ahem) deserves it. I think all couples need to find a happy medium, and if youÂ need to go to an extreem for a certain period of time in order to regulate your relationship, go for it. I just can’t see this as a long-term plan for a happy marriage. What self-respecting woman lets her husband tell her what to wear all the time?! I mean, my husband thinks floral houscoats look cute on me. Ew.