Warning: Marriage May Make You Fat!

No matter how much effort you put into getting in shape for your wedding, you may find all those pounds returning after the wedding-- and then some! It doesn't seem to matter who you are, says iVillage, even buff and beautiful stars like Mariah Carey, Britney Spears, and Khloe Kardashian have packed on a few pounds after getting married. Why does it happen, and is anyone safe from this frightening condition called marriage? I'm sure you don't need me to tell you how life changes just a bit … [Read more...]

Learn to Fight Fair!

Trust is probably the most important ingredient in building an intimate relationship between husband and wife. The essence of building trust is summed up in one idea by Dov Heller, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles: Create a safe emotional space for your spouse. Many people wrongly believe that in a good marriage, you can "relax" and do not have to monitor everything you say and do. Nothing could be farther from the truth!  In a good … [Read more...]

How to balance the needs of your spouse and your parents

In-law problems are among the top reasons for divorce, says Jenna D. Barry, the author of "A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents." . By uniting as a couple, you have the power to eliminate this threat to your marriage. Although everyone yearns for a strong, healthy marriage, sometimes couples feel torn. It's impossible to please everybody all the time, so when there's a conflict between the needs of a spouse and the needs of a parent, you … [Read more...]

Why are you still single?

That headline caught my eye! Even though I am married, I have a single sister and many single friends! so I read with interest this ivillage article called "5 Love Mistakes that Are Keeping You Single". I thought Sherry Amatenstein's advice was sensible, and if you can't seem to find true love, her commentary might give you the help you need to make a change.  "If one or two sound familiar," she says, "Don't beat yourself up.  Just recognize that you deserve better and commit to making a … [Read more...]

Are you lonely in your marriage?

Many single woman look forward to marriage as a time when they will never be alone again. According to Dr. Gail Saltz, "Most women I see tell me they are happy that they found someone special and are married because they would not want to be alone. What’s more curious, however, is how many women tell me that they really feel lonely IN their marriage." Single and lonely is bearable if you can look forward to a future with a loving spouse to keep you company. But married and lonely, well that … [Read more...]

Love in the Mail: How to let him know you’re thinking about him

Is your boyfriend/fiance/husband away on a business trip? Visiting his parents? Part of a traveling circus? There's nothing like a care package to let him know you're thinking about him, and no one knows more about sending love via the mail than the wives and girlfriends of U.S. military men. Here are some of their tips (compliments of iVillage) to melt his heart when you are miles apart. Something Essential: If he's in the military, chances are he'd appreciate some toilet paper that doesn't … [Read more...]