I’m sure there are many points of etiquette that I haven’t heard of, and I’ll share one that I just learned, in case it may help you as well! According to Weddings 911 columnist Alene Gamel, the mother of the bride always gets to chose her gown before the mother of the groom. “The reasoning behind this is that the bride’s mother should not be overshadowed by anyone else but the bride.”
Basically, it goes like this. The bride informs everyone about the level of formality, color, and style of her wedding theme. The bride’s mother then has the privilege of choosing a gown first, and then the mother of the groom can shop for hers, keeping in mind that she has to match the bride’s mother in formality and style.
Say, for example, that the wedding colors are navy and white. The bride’s mother choses a floor length, chiffon gown in silver, with elaborate beading on the top. Now if the groom’s mother is following protocol, she must find a floor length dress that looks as dressy as the bride’s mother’s. She must pick a style and color that compliment the white, navy, and silver theme.
So there you have it. Who knew??