Comments on: Wedding Gift Etiquette: Is your presence present enough?

By: Emily

Emily — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 00:07:33 +0000

I actually fall toward the side of the fence that agrees with this article. While it’s absurd for couples to expect gifts from each invitee, I do think it’s a custom that has merit and it’s dying off with our parents and grandparents. A wedding is a major celebration and turning point in a couple’s life and if you’re invited to attend, that means they want you to be a part of it. Think of the gift not as payment, but as thanks for being included.

I do not agree that it needs to equal the cost of a plate of food, and it is the thought that counts. Gifts don’t have to be expensive to be thoughtful. My fiance and I went to a wedding a few years ago that cost us a boatload to attend…and we were left pretty strapped as a result. We knew the couple because we had met them on a camping trip, and they were registered at REI. We chose a new lantern off their registry that was about $50. About $150 less than we normally would have spent, but it was special to us as friends and I genuinely believe them that they think of us every time they use it. The flip side of this was the best man at a friend’s wedding that gave two hand towels…about $20.

While it’s not keeping score, you notice! You can’t help it…even if you hate yourself for it. If you truly can’t afford a thoughtful gift, don’t send one at all, but DO send a thoughtful note that thanks the couple for including you in their celebration and calls out one favorite memory.

By: Carmen Harris

Carmen Harris — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 20:28:31 +0000

What if you gave a gift from the bridal registry at the bride’s shower? What do you give at the wedding, just a card of congratulations?

By: Urbzen

Urbzen — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 04:56:45 +0000

Sooo glad to see that I’m not the only one who thought that list was way out of line.

If you want to read part two of the post referenced above, you can find it here: Matrimonial Olympics–Closing Ceremonies.

Cheers!

By: Christopher L. Jorgensen

Christopher L. Jorgensen — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 03:56:13 +0000

This whole hoopla has me reading wedding blogs. I’m still trying to figure that one out.

I was just heartened to see in the comments on the snooty bride’s site that I wasn’t the only person that thought she should be ashamed (and probably shot).